"It's just stupid"

I had a bit of chat last night with #1. He worked and had made arrangements with his buddy to pick him up, rather than have SG or I do it. We had been at friends for the evening, and well, tipped a few bevvies and, while I'm sure one of us could have gone to pick him up, it probably wouldn't have been the wise decision.

Whilst perched on the front deck looking at the moon and the stars, he said that his buddy has turned all weird and stupid. I asked him why he thought that and he said that ever since he (the buddy) has been hanging out with this "Lindsay" girl he just hasn't been the same. He never wants to come over and hang out in the barn (which has been turned into #1's "shop") anymore. Has no interest in doing much of anything at all...just wants to hang with Lindsay.

I asked if they were what we used to call "going out with each other" and he said no, they usually just sit at buddy's house and don't do too much of anything. Which he thinks is really boring and stupid. Apparently I should've been a little clearer with what I meant, but I didn't.

As I tried to supress my giggling, I needed to come up with something to say that wouldn't make him give up on his buddy, but let him know that this will probably be him once he finds a "lindsay" that he wants to spend time with. A lot of time with. Probably more time than he could ever imagine.

I tried to explain that once a person finds someone that they like and are interested in, they start to change. They want to be with that person, more than anyone else. It's sort of like the beginning of a new chapter in the book of life where, while they still like their guy friends, they've started to expand their circle to more than just the guys. An invisible switch goes off and then the girls come along. And sometimes, the girls become more important than the guys.

And you know what he said to me?

"Mom, I know that. I'm not dumb."

"It's just stupid, that's all."

And while part of me wanted to go further into my explaination of the dynamics of a teenage relationship, the other part of me didn't even want to go near it!!

"You're right. It is stupid."

Ciao!!